There’s an old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your handsome prince.” I wish I could say that this isn’t true from my experiences, but alas, I’ve had my fair share of frogs.
I’m not an expert when it comes to relationships, but I feel like I’ve learned a lot from some of the guys I’ve dated. Their less-than-ideal qualities showed me the things I need out of a relationship. Unfortunately, it took a long time for me to realize exactly what those needs were.
It’s in my nature to look for the best in people and I have a habit of putting the needs of others above my own. As a result, I put up with a lot crap from the guys I dated. I attempted to justify their lack of communication, lack of commitment, and lack of respect by placing the blame on myself. While I was definitely not the perfect partner, I knew deep down that I deserved better.
It wasn’t until I met my current boyfriend that I realized how unhappy I was in my previous relationships. I met Dylan just over two years ago and we’ve been inseparable ever since. We have a positive, healthy relationship and a true partnership. He is supportive, caring, and affectionate. These are the things I need in a relationship.
Even though I met a few frogs on my dating journey, I’m grateful for the lessons they taught me. They helped me realize my worth and made me a stronger person. My advice for anyone going through a similar situation is to value yourself. Don’t sacrifice your own happiness and well-being for someone else. You don’t have to settle for a frog when you deserve a handsome prince.