As a fashion, beauty and lifestyle blogger, I guess you can say, I enjoy being in the spotlight… especially on Social Media. I share photos of myself and things I love every day, so I receive a lot of positive feedback from my online community. I get anything from “cute sweater” to more meaningful comments from people, who tell me that they enjoy my content. Of course, I love and thrive off of the attention – it makes me feel great about myself and what I’m doing. This is part of where I find the motivation to keep creating. I also enjoy connecting with other people on Social Media and spreading kindness and offering support to them.
Is it assumed that if you love one kind of attention, that you seek out all kinds? Well…I recently celebrated my 29th birthday. The week before that, I removed my birthday from my Facebook profile.
Here’s the thing. I’ve had an account on Facebook for over 10 years. That’s a long time! At first, everything about the network was exciting. I loved being able to connect with friends from my childhood that I’d lost touch with over the years. It was incredible to see what they looked like years later and what they were up to. I remember how special I felt when my birthday rolled around and I received kind messages from old friends. It was so cool that they were thinking of me! When their birthdays rolled around, I made sure to do the same. Back then, Facebook added to the excitement of having a birthday.
Over the last 10 years, my attitude about my birthday has changed. When I was younger, I would start getting excited about my birthday as far as two months in advance. Now, I’m a lot less excited about it. Of course, there’s the whole “OMG I am getting old” complex, but it’s more than that. I’ve learned that when you’re an adult, birthdays just aren’t a big deal anymore! Your birthday is just like any other day. Most people won’t go out of their way to make you feel special. You know what? I’m okay with that!
As I’ve gotten older, so has Facebook.
The novelty has worn off.
People are busier.
We have more friends on Facebook.
There’s more Social Media platforms to keep up with.
And so, this is why birthday messages have gotten a lot less personal.
This is why we forget to post on someone’s wall.
I get it!
This is why I decided that this year, I didn’t want or need that Facebook-induced “birthday stress.” You know what? I’m glad I made that decision!
This year, I received only a few messages from close family and friends. I was surprised with a couple of cards and small, thoughtful gifts from friends that have only recently come into my life. These gestures were so sweet and unexpected that they made me so much happier than a couple hundred generic posts on my Facebook Wall.
Quality over quantity.
Have you ever considered removing “key” information from your Facebook profile? Let me know in the comments!