It has finally arrived – the day of love, or as I like to call it “the day that couples are expected to show their love in elaborate and unique ways”. If you’re like me, and have been with your partner for a couple of years now, you are a Valentine’s Day veteran and have probably run out of cool ways to celebrate this crazy holiday.
Don’t fret, help is on the way.
What would you say if I told you that you could outsource the planning of your Valentine’s Day to someone else? Would you think I was crazy? Two years ago I was in the same boat as you – wondering what in the world I was going to plan and wishing that I could pawn off this task on someone else.
That day, my prayers were answered.
It was then that I stumbled upon an article in the Metro about a service in Ottawa called A Date by Kate, where a woman named Kate plans a surprise date for you and your partner and thought it was such a great idea! But alas, I didn’t follow through and had to plan my own Valentine’s Day that year.
Last year, however, I saw Kate on morning TV talking about the service and thought, this is a sign that I should finally check this out.
So how can you avoid planning your own date this year?
Through the A Date By Kate website, couples have the ability to choose from two different dates – the Customized Date ($129) and the Full AD8BYK8 Experience ($169). These fees cover the cost of Kate’s time and planning and then you provide your budget of what you want to spend on your date. After you create your account and choose your date, Kate will send you a link to the questionnaire.
In order to get a good sense of you and your partner, Kate will send you a link to a 25 question questionnaire. The questions are simple enough to answer but allow Kate to get a good sense of your relationship (and thereby allowing her to plan a great date!).
For those who are worried about her planning something you definitely do not want to partake in, she has a question which covers just that! But let me tell you, it’s a lot more fun if you’re able to get out of your comfort zone with your partner.
My Date (and what you can expect)
Now, when you’re used to being in the know of what is going on, sitting and waiting for the information to come was probably the toughest part.
Forty-five minutes before our date started, I receive the following email from Kate with our itinerary. It took every fiber in my body not to open the PDF and read until the end. However, with the help of Chris, I resisted the temptation. And I’m so glad I did.
As soon as the clock struck two, we began our adventure.
Our first stop was to Canadian Tire to buy some walkie talkies. Since Chris and I had met while working at Bell Canada, Kate thought it would be a cool idea to incorporate a communication device, which was a little more creative than our cell phones. We had a lot of fun getting them set up and were anxious for what she had planned next.
The walkie talkies were used for the next two activities we did – first, Chris had to get me to choose flowers based on words I liked most, and then I had to get him to choose desserts, using the same concept.
While Chris was in the flower shop, he had to choose three words that best described me – he chose Captivating, Selfless and Beautiful.
After we finished collecting the flowers and desserts, we had strict instructions to go home and relax before the second half of our date.
At 5:30 we headed out to the game board lounge, the Loft, where the owner had selected three games for us to choose from. I personally had been to the Loft at least a half dozen times before, but never with Chris. We are both super competitive, so it was a lot of fun to learn a new game and try to kick each other’s butt.
At 8, we set out for the last stop of our evening, dinner at Carben, with our reservation at 8:30. Kate had called ahead and told them about Chris’ allergies and we enjoyed a nice candlelight dinner.
So why should you trust Kate to plan your date?
Get out of your comfort zone
All of us get into a rythmn with our partner – we always tend to default to the same old things (dinner and a movie, etc.). Having someone else plan your date allows you both to experience something new, without one of you questioning the other. This allows you both to go into an experience with an open mind.
Bring back that feeling of the unknown
Remember when you first started dating your partner? Remember those butterflies and not knowing what to expect? A Date by Kate is able to bring back those feelings in the best way possible. Since both parties are unaware of the plans, it allows you both to be surprised by every new activity that Kate has planned.
Don’t just take my word for it
I had a chance to ask Kate why couples should trust her with their hard earned dollars and here is what she said:
“My mind is always coming up with interesting angles, curious questions, and ideas on how to heighten experiences. I love it when adults can step away from their typical grind, and find that element of fun again. Maybe it’s already there, but you’re just super busy and all of the energy for fun seems to be directed towards kids (for example). I feel like A Date by Kate is my opportunity to swoop in, and give people an experience that doesn’t put either partner at blame when it comes to the planning. Just kick back, and experience it together!”
So if you’re ready to pay someone else to plan your Valentine’s Day this year, book yourself a Date by Kate; you’ll be glad you did!