I am not exactly sure what it is but I feel like every year that I age the less I care about BS. That is a pretty bold statement right? Well, think of it like this, ultimately you will be your happiest self when . . .
YOU do what is RIGHT for YOU!
Not when you follow your friend, or a boyfriend, but when you are living life true to you.
I would love to break down some of my personal ‘aha’ moments surrounding food, fashion and career.
Everyone has different tastes and changing tastes for that matter. When I was a little kid, I HATED olives, now I could eat them by the bowlful! Things will change, it is part of life. Moving into my adult years I learned that ‘fancy foods’ like fois gras and sea urchin are big delicacies and if you like them and eat them, you’re fancy too. . . well guess what, I REALLY don’t like foie gras, sea urchin nor do I like caviar. I have have decided that I am still classy even if I don’t like them!
Part of the trouble is figuring out what you DO like. In order to do that my friends, is to try everything. Once you determine you (dis)like something, your tastes may change, but it doesn’t matter as long as you are living your true self.
The food part maybe seems obvious, but it is a part of a bigger picture. Your tastes are YOURS. Don’t feel the ‘need to please’ others by following the crowd.
“Fashion is a trend. Style lives within a person”
– Oscar de la Renta.
Perhaps living by that quote makes me feel extra good about myself or maybe it really is the way to live life. Stay true to YOUR style, it doesn’t matter if it is in a magazine page or is being sold on the featured racks at the store. If a trend comes out that you like, great, rock that sucker! If the trend surfaces and it makes you want to run in the other direction due to pure hatred or even uneasiness, then don’t bother adopting it and don’t feel bad about it.
You are allowed to say no with zero explanation. There have been many moments in my personal ‘style’ journey that I will seek out a trend from a couple seasons prior and someone always feels the need to “fill me in” that they trend is passé. I then explain that I am getting xyz item because it is a staple for me (and frankly much of the time it had been a staple for me before it was trendy for the masses). Now I am not saying that I can predict trends, but fashion is cyclical, what is fashionable at one time likely will become fashionable again if you wait long enough, ask your mother or grandmother! (Man I sound old!) Therefore, if a trend of this season becomes a staple for you, keep rocking it even when everyone else have decided to pack it up.
Once you figure out what living YOUR TRUE LIFE looks like for YOU, then honestly things become easier; choices and decisions will seem clearer and might even become second nature. The bottom line here is determining what is valuable to you; whether in the categories of fashion or food or going deeper into other values in your life.
I always LOVE hearing how people are in their chosen careers. Unfortunately, there are many who are not in love with what they do and they feel pressure to stay due to financial or social obligations. I have also met people who LOVE what they do, and typically those people have quite a winding journey before hitting that sweet spot.
Remember that quote, “she designed a life she loved”, you see it on wall plaques and ring trays? Well, as inspiring it is, it doesn’t mention that it might be difficult or take a really long time there. I think the biggest thing is that it is of course the destination as a goal but the journey is everything; so it is important to stay true to yourself during that journey. Make sure you are trying to implement little things here and there that make your journey more enjoyable whether that be taking risks and diving into a career that is totally different or perhaps setting boundaries so that your work doesn’t take over your life. YOU DO YOU, that is the only thing that will make you happy.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this idea of breaking away from the ‘trendy’ or the ‘path most followed’. It is a common topic, however it is always MUCH easier said than done! What do you find is the most difficult area to stay true to yourself? Leave a comment below and I will be sure to respond!
Happy journeys my friends